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I like to draw clothes as a hobby so for my wedding I designed all of the bridesmaids dresses to tailor to each of my bridesmaid’s body type. However, one of my bridesmaids does not like the design I drew for her. She is not exactly on the small side and she wanted me to redesign the dress in a way the would not be flattering to her. (Think strapless on a woman with large arms and the dress I designed for her has elbow length sleeves.)
How could I explain to her why I chose that specific design without hurting her feelings?
I am paying for the dresses and the dresses are the same color and similar design. My sister has a spaghetti strap while my other friend has a halter design, for example
And thank you for the well wishes and advice! 
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I would maybe try to make all your bridesmaids dresses look identical so that you don’t hurt any ones feelings. Maybe make them ALL have elbow length sleeves and explain to her that you want all of your bridesmaids to wear the same dress and that the design you picked out is the one your set on. That way she may not feel singled out of the group for being bigger. Good luck!
tell her that your design will enhance her best features and that you put alot of time and consideration into your design…. Good Luck on your wedding day!
I’m a bridesmaid in my friend’s wedding this summer. She chose a two piece–poofy skirt and strapless top. I’m not a large person, but I really like it being cut in two pieces b/c sometimes women are different sizes from top to bottom. I had to get a size 6 skirt, and 10 top. It doesn’t sound like you want to change the design, I just thought I’d mention that this seems to be a pretty flattering dress style.
just tell her that you want her to look her best and that style will fit her best!
I would first try to explain to her that you like the dress you designed and you think it will be beautiful on her. if that doesn’t work then tell her it’s your wedding and she should be supportive.
best of luck ; )
Your friend deserves to be in a dress that she also likes. My friend made me wear a horrible dress that I couldn’t stand for her wedding and I still resent her a little bit for it. I had to pay $400 for a dress that I couldn’t stand. Talk to you friend and tell her you designed this for her because you think it’s the best look for her. If she really doesn’t like it, try designing something else. If she really wants strapless, maybe you can talk her into having a shawl or something to cover up with. Compromise. It’s your day, but it’s her money that will have to pay for the dress. She does deserve an opinion.
There is no way to tell what is flattering on someone without them trying it on. The style guides that are found online are not always accurate. She knows what her comfort level is and you don’t seem to be receptive to that. I don’t blame her for being upset.
maybe you could give her a spaghetti strap dress and make a shawl to go over her shoulders if she doesnt like the sleeves? Unfortunately no matter how you tell her the strapless isnt right she will still be offended
Maybe try and offer her a different design which will still suit her
Sleeves on a plus size woman only adds more bulk. Think more strapless corseted top. This is the most flattering. Also an a-line skirt is the most flattering for the hips. If you or she still wants to cover her arms, think about a matching shrug.
I think that you can’t go wrong with an aline design. I had some big bridesmaids and they were all black, strapless and a-line, but the styles were all different. And, they all looked great!